Back In The Game
Last week my son and I were riding in the car and he asked me a very, very profound question, that is for a 10 year old….”Mommy, why don’t you date?”!!! I had to pause a moment and allow this question to soak into the crevices of my mind and heart. My response was a simple, “I don’t know” and then he responded, it’s easy, all you have to do is go on Match.com!!!
I started to ponder, does my son think I’m “abnormal” because he doesn’t (see) me dating!! And I guess since he doesn’t see me then it really isn’t dating but rather simply having a few friends. I hear a lot of women in my age group say that their children, especially their boys, are not thrilled with the idea of them dating yet my son is anxiously awaiting to be introduced to my suitor!!
Unbeknownst to my son, I have tried several online dating sites in the past. If I can successfully navigate the waters of an online education then surely I can date online, NOT!!! That online dating thing is worse than traditional dating, for me that is. I am not criticizing online dating as I have a dear friend who met her fiancée online and they are soon to be married however I just don’t have the patience to sit and sift. Sit at the computer and sift through thousands of potential mates and pray that the person pictured is actually the person massaging the keys of the keyboard. It’s a task to sit there, sit and sift, check your emails, chat online, talk on the phone, Skype and the rest in the competitive world of online dating. I don’t think I could have said all of this to my son with him being able to fully grasp and comprehend the message I was sending so my simple response was, “dating is not as easy as it seems” and it surely is not at this age. 
When I was in my 20′s I was hell on wheels, at one point I had 5 dates for 5 different days of the week and this could only last a few months as it got somewhat confusing. Then of course I had my boyfriends and live-ins, I’ve helped raised other women’s children back when I had no desire to have a child, helped start and run businesses, and many other things I care not to divulge in such a public forum:)!!! This was long before my son, the information he will learn one day as he gets older over dinner or a cup of tea. Eventually he will learn that his mother was not always the “non-dater” that she appears to be now!
I do however desire to get back into the game of dating, not online though, just traditional being out, meeting someone, exchange phone numbers, talk not text, and be treated to a nice date which can lead to more dates which could possibly lead up to my son being aware of me dating. The thing is most of the “unseen” dates are not ready to be seen and my desire to fully be back in the game is still that, a desire!! It’s going to take work on my part though and that begins with me going out so I decided to go somewhere at least twice a month so that I can start the process the rest is up to the wonderful, eligible men out in date land!!!
Remember to Keep Your Head Up and Love One Another!!!
